notebook
“The Freudian etiology that is typified by the trauma argument is determinism in a different form, and it is the road to nihilism” Saying that my behavior now is caused by my past trauma is saying that my trauma determined my actions, which is stepping towards denying will, and then
notebook
“If the past determined everything and couldn’t be changed, we who are living today would no longer be able to take effective steps forward in our lives” If everything is predetermined, then we lose our free will. Excerpt From: Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga. “The Courage to Be Disliked.
notebook
“All problems are interpersonal relationship problems. (Emphasis mine) This is a concept that runs to the very root of Adlerian psychology. If all interpersonal relationships were gone from this world, which is to say if one were alone in the universe and all other people were gone, all manner of
notebook
“To feel lonely, we need other people. That is to say, it is only in social contexts that a person becomes an “individual.” Being lonely isn’t the condition of being alone, being lonely is the condition of being separated from other people, desiring to be with other people. Loneliness
notebook
“There is no such thing as worry that is completely defined by the individual; so-called internal worry does not exist. Whatever the worry that may arise, the shadows of other people are always present.” Our problems arise from our entanglements with other people. Excerpt From: Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga.
notebook
“We determine our own lives according to the meaning we give to those past experiences. Your life is not something that someone gives you, but something you choose yourself, and you are the one who decides how you live” It’s not so much the hand that you are dealt,
notebook
“In Adlerian psychology, trauma is definitively denied. This was a very new and revolutionary point. Certainly, the Freudian view of trauma is fascinating. Freud’s idea is that a person’s psychic wounds (traumas) cause his or her present unhappiness. When you treat a person’s life as a vast
notebook
“This is the difference between etiology (the study of causation) and teleology (the study of the purpose of a given phenomenon, rather than its cause)” Not what caused the behavior, but why, what purpose is being served. What’s the goal here. Excerpt From: Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga. “The
notebook
“in Adlerian psychology, we do not think about past “causes” but rather about present “goals” Instead of trying to unravel the why of something by looking at the past and creating a narrative, we need to look to present how this behavior is serving a need or a goal. For
notebook
“The goal of shouting came before anything else. That is to say, by shouting, you wanted to make the waiter submit to you and listen to what you had to say. As a means to do that, you fabricated the emotion of anger.” Expressing anger is a way to short
notebook
“The question isn’t “What happened?” but “How was it resolved?” I’ve been spending a lot of time spelunking in the past lately, trying to recover memories before they fade away. But I haven’t been reflecting on it in this way. I was looking at the “what”, and
notebook
“Regardless of what may have happened in the past, it is the meaning that is attributed to it that determines the way someone’s present will be.” The past itself has no power over us. Its power arises from the meaning and interpretation applied to it. So it can always