The Burden of Masking
Those of us who ‘adapt’ are forcing ourselves to not be ourselves – it’s an act that takes up a lot of cognitive resources for this alone, and also can lead to anxiety, depression, and a loss of identity. The more effectively Autistic people mask, the higher the risk of these developing, and it has a near exponential effect on suicide statistics.
It takes too much time and energy to try and fit in, and you end up burning out. In my case, since no one knew I was autistic, it was treated as depression, and I was treated as someone who just got seasonal depression. Which was frustrating to me because I felt like we never got to why the depressions were happening. They were just waved off as a being a force of nature that could neither be understood nor controlled.
You are not a burden. You have been burdened. – Rory’s Reckons