Quotes
As a philosophy, kintsugi is similar to the Japanese philosophy of wabi-sabi, an embracing of the flawed or imperfect. Japanese aesthetics values marks of wear from the use of an object. This can be seen as a rationale for keeping an object around even after it has broken; it can
My Stuff
I’ve been thinking more and more about expanding and contracting lately. I seem to get fuller with each expansion. I’ve grown a lot in the last three months. I can feel that I am a different person, and right now I feel like a stronger, more capable person.
Quotes
Empathy and cruelty are rarely as distant from each other as we’d like to believe; good guys, under the wrong circumstances, can all too easily go bad. Nate’s descent bears that out. His transformation is jarring and confusing and maddening and a little bit heartbreaking. It turns the
Thoughts
“One faces one’s life tasks. In other words, one takes steps forward on one’s own, without avoiding the tasks of the interpersonal relations of work, friendship, and love. If you are “the center of the world,” you will have no thoughts whatsoever regarding commitment to the community; because
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People with an anxious attachment style actively seek closeness and are afraid of losing it, and have a harder time trusting and knowing their partner will be there for them The Opposite of Rape Culture is Nurturance Culture
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Nurturance, the literature teaches us, recognizes and responds appropriately, in an alive, moving dance, to the other person’s need for intimacy andneed for space, learning how to engage in nonverbal limbic communication that comforts, reassures, and breathes The Opposite of Rape Culture is Nurturance Culture
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Compassion for self and compassion for others grow together and are connected; this means that men finding and recuperating the lost parts of themselves will heal everyone The other day I noticed I was crabby towards other people, but the problem was within myself. The Opposite of Rape Culture is
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This is how you build secure attachment: through daily attunement to the subtle cues of other people, and lavishing love and care while letting them come and go as needed. In this kind of connection, you know your home base is always there for you, so you feel comfortable going
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Apparently about 50 percent of the population, people of all genders, have a secure attachment style: they were raised by responsive, attuned parents, who recognized their need to go out and explore as well as their need to come back and be comforted, and responded in a timely, attuned way
Quotes
“For the mind must be interested or absorbed in something, just as a mirror must always be reflecting something” The mind has to be thinking Excerpt From: Alan Watts & Deepak Chopra. “The Wisdom of Insecurity.” Knopf Doubleday Publishing Group, 2011-11-16. Apple Books.
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“the feeling of inferiority is an awareness that arises within vertical relationships. If one can build horizontal relationships that are “equal but not the same” for all people, there will no longer be any room for inferiority complexes to emerge.” Excerpt From: Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga. “The Courage to
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“Adlerian psychology refutes all manner of vertical relationships and proposes that all interpersonal relationships be horizontal relationships” Excerpt From: Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga. “The Courage to Be Disliked.” Atria, 2018-05-08. Apple Books.