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“Such people try to make themselves “special” by way of their experience of misfortune, and with the single fact of their misfortune try to place themselves above others” Seeking the sympathy to make yourself feel less inferior, again, looking to others when you should be resolving these things yourself. Excerpt
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“It’s because one’s feeling of inferiority is strong that one boasts. One feels the need to flaunt one’s superiority all the more” Even though you seem to be saying, look at how special I am, what you are really showing is how insecure you are. Excerpt From:
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“The one who boasts does so only out of a feeling of inferiority” The only reason to seek praise from others for your accomplishments to make yourself feel better than you do. Excerpt From: Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga. “The Courage to Be Disliked.” Atria, 2018-05-08. Apple Books.
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“The healthiest way is to try to compensate through striving and growth” The healthy way to overcome your feeling of inferiority to work towards a realistic solution. Excerpt From: Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga. “The Courage to Be Disliked.” Atria, 2018-05-08. Apple Books.
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“no one is capable of putting up with having feelings of inferiority for a long period of time. Feelings of inferiority are something that everyone has, but staying in that condition is too heavy to endure forever.” Feelings of inferiority are supposed to spur us to improve ourselves, but if
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“ In other words, you’re not equipped with the courage to change your lifestyle” You could, if you weren’t a fucking coward All funny business aside, the reason we don’t change when we want to is that we lack the courage to rock the boat and do something
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“apparent cause and effect.” That is to say, you convince yourself that there is some serious causal relationship where there is none whatsoever” You believe something to be true, you start looking for things to confirm your belief, but what you are observing is a casual relationship and you haven’
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“One tries to get rid of one’s feeling of inferiority and keep moving forward. One’s never satisfied with one’s present situation—even if it’s just a single step, one wants to make progress. One wants to be happier. There is absolutely nothing wrong with the state
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“Adler is saying that the pursuit of superiority and the feeling of inferiority are not diseases but stimulants to normal, healthy striving and growth” It’s natural and healthy to want to improve oneself, and because growth is difficult, it is natural to feel inferior when you try to grow.
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“The counterpart of this is the feeling of inferiority. Everyone is in this “condition of wanting to improve” that is the pursuit of superiority. One holds up various ideals or goals and heads toward them. However, on not being able to reach one’s ideals, one harbors a sense of
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“First of all, people enter this world as helpless beings. And people have the universal desire to escape from that helpless state. Adler called this the “pursuit of superiority.” We start life in an inferior state and are continually pursuing superiority as we grow. Excerpt From: Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake
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“Adler recognizes that feelings of inferiority are something everyone has. There’s nothing bad about feelings of inferiority themselves.” A feeling of inferiority is anything that you want to improve. Excerpt From: Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga. “The Courage to Be Disliked.” Atria, 2018-05-08. Apple Books.