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“But don’t forget, it’s basically impossible to not [emphasis mine] get hurt in your relations with other people. When you enter into interpersonal relationships, it is inevitable that to a greater or lesser extent you will get hurt, and you will hurt someone, too. Adler says, “To get
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“What I can do is to get the person first to accept “myself now,” and then regardless of the outcome have the courage to step forward. In Adlerian psychology, this kind of approach is called “encouragement” Neither praise nor rebuke, but encourage. Encourage them to accept the reality of here
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“No matter what has occurred in your life up to this point, it should have no bearing at all on how you live from now on” You should be focused on your current and future goals and not the events of the past. Excerpt From: Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga.
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“But if you change your lifestyle—the way of giving meaning to the world and yourself—then both your way of interacting with the world and your behavior will have to change as well. Do not forget this point: One will have to change. You, just as you are, have
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“That people are always selecting their own lifestyles” People are always inventing and reinventing themselves. Being able to manipulate that is part of the skill of masking. Excerpt From: Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga. “The Courage to Be Disliked.” Atria, 2018-05-08. Apple Books.
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“When we try to change our lifestyles, we put our great courage to the test. There is the anxiety generated by changing, and the disappointment attendant to not changing” It’s painful to change and painful to stay the same. Actually, I guess it’s the fear of potential pain
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“Although there are some small inconveniences and limitations, you probably think that the lifestyle you have now is the most practical one, and that it’s easier to leave things as they are. If you stay just like this, experience enables you to respond properly to events as they occur,
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oh god this waiting room music is all slow music from high school dances
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What do you enjoy doing most in your leisure time? Video games have pretty much been my go to leisure activities since I was a kid. I started with an Atari 2600 and an Intellivision, then a Commodore 64 and then PCs. I stopped following consoles once I got into
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Some days you’re heavy, and the water feels like a welcome, and you forget which way is up. The thing that sounds best is to quit swimming and let yourself sink. But you keep surfacing, even though you’re tired, so tired. You remember land. You think about putting
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I made it to Ebonheart, and got a job as a lay healer for the Imperial shrine. I managed to find the inn, and after bartering the different herbs and flowers I had collected along the way, got a room for the night. My third day in Morrowind, and I
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Now I’m back in Sayed, on top of the lighthouse, watching out for a guy named Fangorth or something. He’s going to stash some cash and I’m supposed to steal it and give it to this local enforcer. I’m conflicted about this. I’m a healer