Egging you on
“when you feel genuinely angry due to another person’s words or behavior, please consider that the person is challenging you to a power struggle.”
If you give in and get angry, you are now in a competition. If you refuse to play, no one can win.
Excerpt From: Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga. “The Courage to Be Disliked.” Atria, 2018-05-08. Apple Books.