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“once one is released from the schema of competition, the need to triumph over someone disappears. One is also released from the fear that says, Maybe I will lose. And one becomes able to celebrate other people’s happiness with all one’s heart. One may become able to contribute
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“said, “You’re the only one who’s worried how you look.” He says that it got a bit easier for him to deal with life after that.” People are not passing judgement on us as often as we think they are, and even when they are, what of it?
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“If there is competition at the core of a person’s interpersonal relationships, he will not be able to escape interpersonal relationship problems or escape misfortune” Because interpersonal strife is the root of all problems, seeking competition is looking for trouble. Excerpt From: Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga. “The Courage
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“When one is trying to be oneself, competition will inevitably get in the way.” If you are trying to measure up to your self don’t get distracted trying to measure up to others. Excerpt From: Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga. “The Courage to Be Disliked.” Atria, 2018-05-08. Apple Books.
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“We do not walk in order to compete with someone. It is in trying to progress past who one is now that there is value.” Again, it is against yourself and not other people whom you should compare yourself. Excerpt From: Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga. “The Courage to Be
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“Instead of treating the child like an adult, or like a child, one must treat him or her like a human being. One interacts with the child with sincerity, as another human being just like oneself.” Children aren’t inferior to us. They lack discipline and expertise, but they are
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“Everyone is different. Don’t mix up that difference with good and bad, and superior and inferior. Whatever differences we may have, we are all equal.” Our differences don’t make us superior or inferior to anyone else. They just make us different. Excerpt From: Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga.
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“Look, all of us are different. Gender, age, knowledge, experience, appearance—no two of us are exactly the same. Let’s acknowledge in a positive manner the fact that other people are different from us. And that we are not the same, but we are equal” No two people are
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“A healthy feeling of inferiority is not something that comes from comparing oneself to others; it comes from one’s comparison with one’s ideal self.” Instead of comparing yourself to others, compare yourself to the person whom you would like to be. Excerpt From: Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga.
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“with anyone. And, of course, there is no need to compare oneself with others.” We are all different but we are all equally human beings so there is no need to measure oneself against someone else, because you will always come up short. Excerpt From: Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga.
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“as long as one continues to use one’s misfortune to one’s advantage in order to be “special,” one will always need that misfortune.” As long as your misfortune is the thing that makes you special, then you will always need that and won’t be able to get
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“In fact, if we were to ask ourselves who is the strongest person in our culture, the logical answer would be, the baby. The baby rules and cannot be dominated” The baby has its parents jumping at its whims. It’s really powerful. Excerpt From: Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga.